I’ve always known my aunt’s name to be Hajja but I just recently found out that her real name is ‘Arafah.

It’s like the best nickname in the world, mashaa Allaah !

You can’t tell your nafs to do anything, it only seeks to fulfill its desires; the nafs does what the nafs wants. You, however have to make it do what you want it to do. You make it get up for Salah even though it doesn’t want to. You make it lower the gaze although it doesn’t want to. You make it stay from the prohibited even thought it’s what fulfills it. You need to discipline your nafs. You have to have control. Lose control, and your nafs will control you. Discipline it. Train it. Form the good habits. Eventually it will weaken, eventually you will manage it. Eventually it will listen. But you have to work, you have to fight your nafs; you have to defeat it lest it defeats you.

All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.

Dhul Hijjah [Simplified]

  • Dhul Hijjah translates to month of Hajj.
  • This virtuous month contains the ten best days in which the Prophet Muhammad (Sallah Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, “The best days in the world are the ten days.” (1)
  • Please note that the ten best nights refer to the last ten nights of Ramadaan (the nights in which the Night of Decree-Laylatul Qadr is sought) while these are the ten best days
  • These are the days in which good deeds are most beloved to Allaah (‘azza wa jal). In an authentic hadeeth, the Prophet Muhammad (sallah Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said, “There are no days during which good deeds are more beloved to Allaah than these (ten) days.” He was then asked, “not even Jihad in the path of Allaah?” He replied, “not even jihad in the path of Allaah except for a person who goes out with his self and wealth and comes back with nothing.” (2)
  • Exert yourself in good deeds! Give in charity, pray the optional prayers and increase in the remembrance of Allaah (Takbeer: Allaahu Akbar, Tahleel: Laa ilaaha ill Allaah, Tahmeed: Alhamdulilaah)
  • The Prophet (sallah Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said “…So increase in making tasbeeh (saying Subhaanallaah), tamheed, tahleel and takbeer, during them.”(3) 
  • Don’t forget to fast!
  • Fast all 9 days (you don’t fast the 10th day because it will officially be ‘Eidul Adha) which will be on October 4th, 2014 inshaa’Allaah.
  • The 10th day/Eidul Adha is also known as Youm an-Nahr (Day of Slaughtering) as it is the day we slaughter and “It marks the end of the major rites of Hajj. It commemorates the bounty and Mercy of Allaah, in that He gave His beloved Prophet Ibraaheem (Alayhi asalaam) a ram to sacrifice in place of his son.” (4)
  • If for any reason you are unable to fast any of the days, do make it of utmost importance to fast on the 9th day or Youm ‘Arafa/ Day of ‘Arafah as fasting on this day “expiates the sins of the past year and the coming year” (5)
  1. Related by al-Bazzaar, Authenticated by Shaykhul Albaanee.
  2. Related by Ibn Abbaas, recorded in al Bukhaaree.
  3. Related by at-Tabaraanee in al-Kabeer (3/110/1) It was authenticated by al-Mundharee in at-Targheeb wat-Tarheeb (2/24).
  4. Troid
  5. Related by Muslim (1162),from Aboo Qataadah (Radi Allaahu ‘anhu).

You have to let the people who want to go, go. Bid them farewell and continue upon your journey.