Reminder: no one looks up to someone who is always looking down at others !
I suppose we’ll never really know people, or know them at all. We all build homes with several rooms that have hidden rooms filled with drawers and cabinets of files that enclose our secrets, thoughts, feelings, emotions, whispers, obsessions, desires, and everything we ensure never sees the light of day, even to our most beloved of friends or spouses, or family. & it’s not that we don’t want people to know, it’s that we just want people to understand us although we have homes upon homes filled with rooms with hidden rooms that contain drawers and cabinets of files that can never be known to anyone else. We just want to be understood in a way where we don’t have to explain ourselves or reveal our pasts or reasons as to why we do what we do the way we do it. & the very people that itch to know about others, are so frightened to be known themselves, that they blame you for being closed. Difficult. Hard. They beg you to be soft, to give them keys to your homes, access to your rooms, codes to open your files. They don’t care to understand you, they just want to know. Wait for the people that don’t try to decipher your codes, but understand why it is you have a code in the first place. Wait for the people who knock on your door even though they know it’s unlocked. Wait for the people that choose to stay even when they come across the files that enclose your secrets, thoughts, feelings, emotions, whispers, obsessions, desires, and everything we ensured never sees the light of day. These will be the people that understand.
Loving the dunya is a one sided relationship. Why not fall in love with what is yours, what is destined for you, what longs for you; the hereafter.
To deem aspects of the deen significant and insignificant due to your liking (based on so called extensive research) is ultimately undermining whom it is you should be considering all aspects of the deen significant to, as He has perfected for you your religion and chosen Islam for you. So it’s not a matter of whether plucking your eyebrows is insignificant, it’s a matter of do the texts permit it? No? Then abstain from doing it. Do the texts permit shaking hands with non mahrams? No? Then abstain from doing it. Even if you may not fully understand why, I hope it would be enough that the knowledge is with Allaah and we, as His creation, hear and obey. The deen has been perfected, there is no aspect of it that is insignificant.
We pray to God in every distress.
And then we forget Him when our distress is lifted.
How can we hope that our Prayer will be answered.
When we have blocked its path with sins?
If you still think about ways it could have gone differently, you haven’t moved on from the past. Moving on is to do things differently now, so that tomorrow, you wouldn’t be stuck on yesterday.
Imaam Ibnul Qayyim (rahimahullaah) said:
“The level of the slave’s (sincerity) in his intention, determination, aim and fervent desire determines Allaah’s Tawfeeq (i.e. Allaah’s guidance for a slave and enabling him to act upon it) and His Aid for him. Aid and Assistance from Allaah descends upon the slaves in accordance with the (sincerity) in their determination.”
What misery for one to find faults in others while he looks upon himself as if faultless.
Are you going to participate in No Shave November? You can even keep that mustache.
One of the worst things you can do for yourself is to compare yourself and your life and your experiences to other people. Their pain is not your pain. Their happyness is not your happyness. Their misery is not your misery. The events that occur to them, even if they occur to you, will never happen the same way, giving the same feeling, making the same memories. You’re not they and they are not you. You’re two different people with different lives and different experiences. Don’t strip yourself from having the right to call your life your own, your experiences be they the same as others, your own, your memories, as your own. You can’t compare you to others. You’re you. You are a different person. With a different life. & different experiences.