يا ابن آدم إنما أنت أيام ! كلما ذهب يوم ذهب بعضك فكيف البقاء!؟
Ibn Bâz (rahimahullah) about the celebration of Christmas and New Year
Some Muslims participate in the holidays of the Christians. What is your opinion on that?
It is not allowed for Muslim men and women to participate in the Christian, Jewish and other disbelievers’ holidays. The fact of the matter is that is it obligatory to stay away from them. The one who imitates a people, belongs to them. The Messenger (sallâ Allâhu ‘alayhi wa sallam) warned us against imitating them and their behaviour. The believing men and women should stay away from this. It is not allowed to help them in any way at all that supports their holidays. These holidays contradict the Sharî’ah and thus it is neither allowed to participate in them, cooperate with their people or even help them with tea, coffee or even kitchen items. Allâh (subhânah) says:
“And cooperate in righteousness and piety, but do not cooperate in sin and aggression. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is severe in penalty.” (5:2)
To participate with the disbelievers in their holidays is a way to cooperate in sin and aggression.
— Shaykh ibn Baaz (rahimahullah)
[Source: Majmû’ Fatâwâ wa Maqâlât Mutanaww’ah (6/405)]
The Effect of Shyness upon Finding a Good Husband Oh Muslim Sister!
[Translated and compiled by Rasheed Barbee, Source]
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيمِ
All praises belong to Allah may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon his family, companions and those who follow his guidance.
Question: In an effort to find a suitable spouse some of our Muslim sisters often resort to impermissible, demeaning methods such as free-mixing with men via the internet, chat rooms, marriage websites, social networks, sending pictures and the like.
Unfortunately some of our sisters have been deceived into believing this to be the more effective technique for obtaining a spouse, removing from themselves the veil of shyness, modesty and dignity.
Oh my sister in Islam! Trust in Allah and follow the blessed methodology of Islam when choosing a mate.
Shaykh Salih Fawzan explains how Allah rewards the shy and modest woman with a good husband. The Shaykh said:
Allah the Exalted said concerning the story of Musa,
وَلَمَّا وَرَدَ مَاءَ مَدْيَنَ وَجَدَ عَلَيْهِ أُمَّةً مِّنَ النَّاسِ يَسْقُونَ وَوَجَدَ مِن دُونِهِمُ امْرَأَتَيْنِ تَذُودَانِ ۖ قَالَ مَا خَطْبُكُمَا ۖ قَالَتَا لَا نَسْقِي حَتَّىٰ يُصْدِرَ الرِّعَاءُ ۖ وَأَبُونَا شَيْخٌ كَبِيرٌ
And when he arrived at the watering (place) in Madyan, he found there a group of men watering (their flocks), and besides them he found two women who were keeping back (their flocks). He said: “What is the matter with you?” They said: “We cannot water (our flocks) until the shepherds take back (their flocks): and our father is a very old man.”
(Surah Al Qasas, 28:23)
Until the statement of the Exalted:
فَجَاءَتْهُ إِحْدَاهُمَا تَمْشِي عَلَى اسْتِحْيَاءٍ قَالَتْ إِنَّ أَبِي يَدْعُوكَ لِيَجْزِيَكَ أَجْرَ مَا سَقَيْتَ لَنَا ۚ فَلَمَّا جَاءَهُ وَقَصَّ عَلَيْهِ الْقَصَصَ قَالَ لَا تَخَفْ ۖ نَجَوْتَ مِنَ الْقَوْمِ الظَّالِمِينَ
Afterwards one of the women came (back) to him, walking upon bashfulness. She said: “My father invites you that he may reward you for having watered (our flocks) for us.“
(Surah Qasas, 28:25)
So the bashfulness of these two women prevented them from crowding with the men at the watering hole, rather they waited until a shepherd appeared until they were able to water their flock without crowding with the men.
And when their father sent one of them to Musa to request him to meet with their father; she came to Musa عليهالصلاةوالسلام, upon bashfulness.
The result was that Allah the Exalted chose her as a spouse for His Messenger, the one He spoke to directly, Musa عليهالصلاةوالسلام. This was the result of her holding firm to shyness and bashfulness and being far away from mixing with men.
As Allah the Exalted said:
وَالطَّيِّبَاتُ لِلطَّيِّبِينَ وَالطَّيِّبُونَ لِلطَّيِّبَاتِ
“Women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity”.
(Surah An Nur, 24:26)
This story appears in the Noble Quran to be taken by the believing women as a righteous example until the Day of Judgment.
The firmer man’s belief, the higher the degree of reliance on Allah.
Truly in the heart there is a void that can not be removed except with the company of Allah. And in it there is a sadness that can not be removed except with the happiness of knowing Allah and being true to Him. And in it there is an emptiness that can not be filled except with love from him and by turning to Him and always remembering Him and if a person were given all of the world and what is in it, it would not fill this emptiness.
The argument of “I’m hated so I must be doing something right” is idiotic because it makes no sense. In that case, the Shaytaan must be doing something right because he is very much so hated by all Muslims alike. In that case, Mitt Romney is doing something right because he’s hated (or disliked) by nearly all people with a good head on their shoulders. In that case, murderers and rapists and pedophiles must be doing something right because they’re hated, right? Oh because I thought.
Being hated was never and is never an indication that you’re doing something right. Being hated is subject to reasons and everyone will have a different reason for liking you or for disliking you. Don’t try to draw a comparison between you being hated and you doing something right; because being right doesn’t always mean you’re going to be hated for it and being hated for something doesn’t always mean you’re doing something wrong. Sometimes being hated for what you’re doing may just mean you’re doing something … wrong. Like … spreading lies and falsehood and hypocrasy and stealing and killing and raping and murdering and the list can go on and on.
Na’am, the Prophets, Messengers, Sahaaba, wives of the Prophets, as-Salafus Saalih, at taabi’een, at Tabaa’t taabi’een were all hated in one way or another for ascribing to the truth and being firm in their stance. & yes they were right for that.
But to compare being hated for your beliefs that have no basis no matter how you try to twist it, to them being hated for ascribing to the truth is moronic and idiotic. You’re not hated for being right. I don’t think anyone even hates you personally. Have you ever thought that perhaps they hate the beliefs? The claims? The lies?
But sprinkle a little glitter and call it gold and continue on with your arguments of “they hate me, I must be doing something right.” because surely, with a thought process like that, you must be right.
Begin with your own self, prohibit it from its evil; And when it ceases, then you are a wise one.
“Between their two prayers lies a gap as [vast] as that separating the sky from earth”
By Ibn Al-Qayyim (rahimahullah)
Hassan bin ‘Atiya said:
“Two men may offer prayer shoulder to shoulder, and yet between their two prayers lies a gap as [vast] as that gap between the skies and the earth. This is because one of them has his heart turned towards God, while the other is forgetful and heedless.”
Someone who turns away in prayer, either with his eyes or his heart, is like a man whom the king summons and seats before him: just when the king starts to call out his name and addresses him, the man turns from him right and left, and his heart turns away. And since his heart is not present, he understands nothing of what the king says to him. What should this man expect from the king in return? At the very least, should he not expect to leave the palace – rejected, cast out and beneath consideration?
This worshipper is in no wise equal to the one whose heart is present, turned in prayer towards God and so aware of the Grandeur of the One before whom he stands that his heart is filled with awe, his head inclines and he would be ashamed before his Lord to face anyone else, or turn away.
[Source: The Invocation of God by Ibn al-Qayyim al-Jawziyyah, page 26]
“There is no blame on the one who openly manifests the math-hab of the Salaf, ascribes himself to it, and takes honour in it. Rather, that must be accepted from him due to the agreement (of the scholars). For verily the math-hab of the Salaf is nothing but Truth…”
Shaykhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah in Majmoo’ Al-Fataawaa, 4/149